I suspect comments make more sense when there's at least almost enough coherence to the grouping that it becomes a reasonable assumption that two people will remember each other and have some kind of long-term investment in synchronizing (even if it's weak and indirect between most pairs).
The usual thing we kinda reflexively tell people who're having Hmm Gender Feelings is: go do some preëmptive research and set up your knowledge of resources beforehand, in case it does suddenly turn into “I actually have to do this yesterday”, because if it does that and you weren't ready you can have a very bad time. Other than that, most people get to take a while to explore if they want.
Re “I closed off more than ever this year, and I'm wondering if that was a bad life choice or the correct reaction”: We've been seeing a lot of people doing that. Recharge and figure out where you can open up—you've pretty much got it optimized, I think. Good luck.
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Date: 2018-01-02 03:15 pm (UTC)I suspect comments make more sense when there's at least almost enough coherence to the grouping that it becomes a reasonable assumption that two people will remember each other and have some kind of long-term investment in synchronizing (even if it's weak and indirect between most pairs).
The usual thing we kinda reflexively tell people who're having Hmm Gender Feelings is: go do some preëmptive research and set up your knowledge of resources beforehand, in case it does suddenly turn into “I actually have to do this yesterday”, because if it does that and you weren't ready you can have a very bad time. Other than that, most people get to take a while to explore if they want.
Re “I closed off more than ever this year, and I'm wondering if that was a bad life choice or the correct reaction”: We've been seeing a lot of people doing that. Recharge and figure out where you can open up—you've pretty much got it optimized, I think. Good luck.